Writing a Groom’s Speech
Speech etiquette has changed. A groom speech is no longer a tedious list of thank you’s and a toast to the bride and her bridesmaid’s. This is your speech and it should be as unique as your relationship is with your partner!
Traditionally, the bride’s father makes the first speech, followed by the groom and then lastly the best man. Your speech should last around 10 minutes and end in a toast.
It is a good reminder that you need to be really polite about the in-laws and thank the important people, but don’t turn your speech into a thank you list. There is also no need to be overly formal when addressing your guests. You do not need to refer to your friends and family as ‘ladies and gentleman’.
Your speech should be focused on your partner. Although you will want to reference your best man, remember what your wedding is about- your relationship with your partner. This is your chance to recount how you first met your partner.
Don’t spend a long time on jokes. The groom’s speech isn’t an opportunity for a stand-up comedy show, so rather try to make your speech sincere. What is it about your partner that you love? How has your life changed since being with them? You can still, however, be hilarious in a natural way, by finding humour in your everyday life. Share all the ridiculous moments you’ve enjoyed together over the years.
Keep it clean- don’t use bad language or crude content. Anything that could possibly cause offence, shouldn’t be said.
Make eye contact. The more sincere elements of your groom’s speech will be more powerful if you make eye contact with your partner when talking them.
Thank the in-laws, as well as your own parents. Thank them for anything that shows their support over the years.
Lastly, for something slightly different, you and your partner could do a joint speech. This is a great opportunity for a couple to show that they are a team and a Mr & Mrs speech will go down well with your guests.